I do think that moving up in bonsai is a competitive endeavor, and you have to be willing to act more as the men do, to get to the upper echelon.
A. How does a man act when making a beautiful bonsai?
B. I've got a couple of articles in the making but I'm just too lazy to finish up and get them to print. Does this mean I'm not competative enough or I'm I just caught up with so much mom stuff that it's just a lower priority right now? Maybe men just have more cave time to get their thoughts on paper than we do. Frankly, I'd rather socialize than lock myself up and write a book or magazine aticle.
C. Upper echelon examples of woman in bonsai (just off the top of my head): Kathy Shaner, Mary Madisson, Mary Miller, Yvonne Padilla, Candi Hansen, Cheryl Manning, Deborah Koreshoff, Sara Rayner, Esthela Flather, Solita Rosade, Amy Lang, Beatriz de Borrero, Martha Olga de G?mez, Mercedes Cuenca, Milagros Rauber, Petra Engelke, Chiara Padrini, Parizia Cappellaro, Melba Tucker, Hideiko Metaxis, Pauline Muth, Christine Schmalenberg, Lisa Tajima, Leila Kusumi, Carolyn Carver, Mollie Hollar, Ruth Staal, Pam Woythal and Sue Brenan. Just some of the names of women who have written books, given lectures and/or demos and have taught bonsai.
I'm sure there are more men, but we are talking about bonsai, not sports. In the grand scheme of things bonsai is a small hobby compared to other hobbies so you can't possibly theorize based on the U.S. standard for what most women like.
By the way, I didn't start this thread, the men did. They wanted to know why.... they want to change it. So now I have told them why, in my opinion. They can do with it what they will.
Just to add my two cents, I don't believe that men have any obligations to change anything!!